As I write this post I’m a little ashamed to admit that over the past three weeks Kevin and I still have a small amount of our crap at our old house. The past three weeks have been a whirlwind of busy jobs, wedding planning, and packing up all of our belongings and moving 20 minutes up the street.
I do think one of us (me) or both had lost our minds when agreeing to pick up and move during such a busy time in our life. But hey, YOLO, right?
Throughout this process (re: ordeal) i’ve learned quite a bit about myself and about my wonderful and (mostly) loving fiancé. Looking back on the move, there are several things I wish we had done differently, and several things i’m super glad we did. Today I’m here to share with you!
First and most importantly, make a plan and be prepared to have your plans go astray. This may sound a little counterintuitive, but trust me: having a rough outline of a moving plan helps manage expectations. Inevitably we realized that we own much more crap than we realized, and moving all of that crap in a humid 90 degree North Carolina summer takes much longer than one would anticipate.
That being said, our plan to have everything moved within a week seemed like a solid plan. Nope! However our start date of moving and planned time to spend packing and preparing allowed us to round up 5 friends that we are so so grateful for, which made moving the large furniture much less daunting than it could have been.
Second, ask around and do your best to obtain packing materials for free. It blows my mind how expensive cardboard – not the nice plastic bins, just cardboard – boxes are. My goodness! Upon venting my frustrations to a coworker she informed me that the basement of my office always has empty paper boxes available for employees to have.
These free boxes made packing so much easier, and so much more affordable!
I can almost bet money (if I were a betting woman) that someone you know or a friend knows has recently moved or has access to moving materials – just make the effort to ask!
Third! Determine what your priorities are. I’m a fan of cooking at home for money saving and health reasons, so I knew it would be a priority for me to get my kitchen unpacked. Granted, this didn’t mean I was unpacked and ready to cook the night we moved in by any means, but by the end of the weekend I was able to prepare a simple meal. On the other end, our home office wasn’t the most critical need, so that finally got assembled this past Sunday, a full 3 weeks after we began the move. Since I had my priorities in line, this neither bothered me nor caused any problems.
Fourth: Develop a routine. Did you know that moving is scientifically proven to be one of the most stressful actions us humans can go through (both good and bad stress)? I am a creature of habit, and moving causes me a lot of stress. To handle all of these changes, I do my best to create a schedule and stick to it. This includes a bed time, a wake up time, a morning routine, and evening routine once I get home from work. Even though I may have boxes piled around the house, a sense of routine comforts me and allows me to feel right at home.
Finally, give yourself grace and plan time for YOU. As I stated before, chances are you will underestimate the time necessary for your move and uncontrollable circumstances will keep you from getting everything done on time. Allow yourself grace and be okay with this! Kevin and I were very intentional with planning a date night out a few nights into our moving process. It allowed us a “light at the end of the tunnel”, and the opportunity to remove ourselves from the mess that was our new home.:)
How about you? Have you moved homes recently and have any specific tips for the moving process? I’d love to hear your stories in the comments below!